#9 was a very nice gentleman. Only a few years older but seemed WAY older. He was all about my OKC profile as was SURE we'd get along great. To me he looked a lot like my stepdad, Don, so I knew there was no getting over that impression and thus no romance in the mix. He worked as an engineer for the first company I worked at in San Diego: ViaSat. What I found interesting is that when I worked there, loads of young engineers would make up excuses to walk my desk not anywhere near anything nor on the way to anything. I was pretty clear word got around that mostly-men office that a cute new girl was working. I thought it was pretty cute all these young guys walking by to find there was only a dead end and thus had to turn right back around. Only few could make eye contact or say "hey". I went out a couple of time with one of them but he was 36 and super serious about getting married so yeah, that wasn't gonna work. I digress.
So here is this engineer who looks like my stepdad that really wants to meet me so I agree to lunch across the street from my office.
In person, he looks even more like my stepdad. While only a few years older he totally seems like a decade older. He was certainly totally pleasant but zero connection or attraction on my end.
Pretty much as soon as I got back to my desk I had a "confession" email. He was having lots of luck on OkC with single moms and was dating a few others but really liked me and would love to add me to the mix. I saw that as an open door so I walked through it: "ahh, I didn't think that we had enough in common to really even be friends. Best of luck". He was pretty shocked by that. Thought I didn't give him enough of a chance. I said I too was having success and just didn't see any point in having any more dates. He wished me well and that was pretty much as painless as it gets. Lessons learned: just don't even entertain a dude if he looks like your stepdad or anyone else puts said dude squarely in the "no chance at romance" zone.
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